After reading this
we were shocked! We had no idea that
this profile fit Zizzo so perfectly in every way, well, except we do not know
about the promiscuity! Since she is not our type!
And well, the conventional appearance has us stumped!
Profile of a Sociopath
A number of mind-manipulating cult leaders may exhibit many of the behavioral characteristics of a sociopath--an outstanding ability to charm and seduce followers. Since they appear apparently normal, they are not easily recognizable as deviant or disturbed. Although only a trained professional can make a diagnosis, it is important to be able to recognize the personality type in order to avoid further abuse. These traits also apply to a one-on-one cultic relationship.
Glibness/Superficial Charm
Language can be used without effort by them to confuse and convince their
audience. Captivating storytellers that exude self-confidence, they can spin a
web that intrigues others. Since they are persuasive, they have the capacity to
destroy their critics verbally or emotionally.
Manipulative and
Conning
They
never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors
permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and
domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They
dominate and humiliate their victims.
Grandiose Sense of
Self
Feels
entitled to certain things as "their right." Craves adulation and attendance.
Must be the center of attention with their own fantasies as the "spokesman for
God," "enlightened," "leader of humankind," etc. Creates an us-versus-them
mentality
Pathological Lying
Has no
problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be
truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex
belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and able to
pass lie detector tests
Incapacity
for Love
While
they talk about "God's love" they are unable to give or receive it. Since they
do not believe in the genuineness of their followers' love, they are very harsh
in testing it from their devotees and expect them to feel guilt for their
failings. Expects unconditional surrender.
Lack of Remorse,
Shame or Guilt
A deep
seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see
others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of
friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always
justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.
Shallow Emotions
When
they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion, it is more feigned
than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant
matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person.
Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.
Need for
Stimulation
Living
on the edge, yet testing the beliefs of their followers with bizarre rules,
punishments and behaviors. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal.
Callousness/Lack
of Empathy
Unable
to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others'
feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. Their skills are used
to exploit, abuse and exert power. Since the follower cannot believe their
leader would callously hurt them, they rationalize the behavior as necessary for
their (or the group's) own "good" and deny the abuse. When devotees become aware
of the exploitation it feels like a "spiritual rape" to them.
Poor Behavioral
Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce
an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in
the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish,
no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. The
followers only see them as near perfect.
Early Behavior
Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually
has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning
others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as
cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.
Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not
concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to
the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blame their
followers or others outside their group. Blame reinforces passivity and
obedience and produces guilt, shame, terror and conformity in the followers.
Promiscuous Sexual
Behavior/Infidelity
Totalist leaders frequently practice promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and
sexual acting out of all sorts. This is usually kept hidden from all but the
inner circle. Stringent sexual control of their followers, such as forced
breakups and divorces, removal of children from parents, rules for dating, etc.
Criminal or
Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes
their image and that of the group as needed to avoid prosecution and to increase
income and to recruit a range of members. Is able to adapt or relocate as needed
to preserve the group. Can resurface later with a new name, a new front group
and a new twist on the scam.
Lack of Realistic
Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends
to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future. Many
groups claim as their goal world-domination or other utopian promises. Great
contrast between the leader's opulent lifestyle and the followers'
impoverishment. Support by gifts and donations from the followers who are
pressured to give through fear and guilt. Highly sensitive to their own pain and
health.
Other Related Qualities:
1. Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them
2. Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
3. Authoritarian
4. Secretive
5. Paranoid
6. Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired
7. Conventional appearance
8. Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)
9. Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life
10. Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)
11. Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim
12. Incapable of real human attachment to another
13. Unable to feel remorse or guilt
14. Extreme narcissism and grandiose
May state readily that their goal is to rule the world
Yep...she wants to "rule" the cat world!